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Please Read the tab on "Understanding Marriage" before reading this section. It is necessary for edification.

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Understanding the process of Marriage

• A father, being given honour over the children from the Lord, has care for his daughter's body

Sir 3:2  

For the Lord hath given the father honour over the children, and hath confirmed the authority of the mother over the sons.

Sir 7:24

Hast thou daughters? have care of their body, ....

Sir 42:9  

The father waketh for the daughter, when no man knoweth; and the care for her taketh away sleep: when she is young, lest she pass away the flower of her age; and being married, lest she should be hated:
Sir 42:10  

In her virginity, lest she should be defiled and gotten with child in her father's house; and having an husband, lest she should misbehave herself; and when she is married, lest she should be barren. 

• The Father has authority to give her in marriage or keep his virgin pure:

1 Cor 7:36  

But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

• If he chooses to give his daughter in marriage, it's a weighty matter and he has to be mindful to give her to a man of understanding:

Sir 7:25

Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.

• A man of understanding walks uprightly, trusts in the law and the Lord is faithful to him for guidance while departing from evil which enables him to Know Wisdom, the Holy Spirit:

Job 28:28  

And unto man he said, Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom; and to depart from evil is understanding. 

Pro 15:21  

Folly is joy to him that is destitute of wisdom: but a man of understanding walketh uprightly 

Sir 33:3  

A man of understanding trusteth in the law; and the law is faithful unto him, as an oracle 

Sir 18:28  

Every man of understanding knoweth wisdom, and will give praise unto him that found her

• A father who knows Wisdom will praise another man who has found her and give him his daughter in marriage. Yet, a father does not have to give his virgin in marriage if he wills:

1Co 7:37  

Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.
1Co 7:38  

So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

• The father has authority to keep his virgin daughter or marry his daughter unto whom he wills in the Lord:

Sir 36:21  

A woman will receive every man, yet is one daughter better than another.

• A woman will receive whomever her father appoints for her to marry, though one daughter may be more righteous than another. There are laws concerning a father giving his daughter in marriage:

 

Laws Regarding making Marriages for our Family

• It is evil for a father to give his younger daughter in marriage before the elder daughter. 

Jubilees 28:6-7
[6]And Laban said to Jacob: 'It is not so done in our country, to give the younger before the elder.' And it is
not right to do this; for thus it is ordained and written in the heavenly tablets, that no one should give his
younger daughter before the elder; but the elder, one gives first and after her the younger and the man who
does so, they set down guilt against him in heaven, and none is righteous that does this thing, for this
deed is evil before Ahayah.
[7]And command thou the children of Israel that they do not this thing; let them neither take nor give the
younger before they have given the elder, for it is very wicked.

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• It is not lawful to prostitute your daughter to cause her to be a whore nor your son to make him a sodomite:

Lev 19:29  

Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.

Deu 23:17  

There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel. 

• Its unlawful to give your women in marriage unto an unbeliever or take an unbeliever for a spouse to your women: 

​ Jubilees 30:7-16

7. And if there is any man who wisheth in Israel to give his daughter or his sister to any man who is of the seed of the Gentiles he shall surely die, and they shall stone him with stones; for he hath wrought shame in Israel; and they shall burn the woman with fire, because she hath dishonoured the name of the house of her father, and she shall be rooted out of Israel.

• It is a shame for a man to give a woman to an unbeliever and a woman who married an unbeliever has dishonored her father's house, which is the house of Abraham by faith. A man is only to give his women to Christian men of understanding, which are the children of Abraham by faith and through faith that  keep the commandments and bear the fruits of the Spirit. The seed of the Gentiles is any man of any nation including Israel who does not believe in Yache Christ, keep the commandments, and bear the fruits of the Spirit. Believers of all nations are children of Abraham because of their faith making them brothers and sisters. 

 

Identifying the Seed of the Gentiles vs the Children of Abraham

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• Faith made Abraham the father of all believers:  

Rom 4:11  

And he received the sign of circumcision, a seal of the righteousness of the faith which he had yet being uncircumcised: that he might be the father of all them that believe, though they be not circumcised; that righteousness might be imputed unto them also:
Rom 4:12  

And the father of circumcision to them who are not of the circumcision only, but who also walk in the steps of that faith of our father Abraham, which he had being yet uncircumcised.

• ​This is in reference to non-Isralites by blood known as Gentiles.

Eph 2:11-15,18-22
[11]Wherefore remember, that ye being in time past Gentiles in the flesh, who are called Uncircumcision by
that which is called the Circumcision in the flesh made by hands;

[12]That at that time ye were without Christ, being aliens from the commonwealth of Israel, and strangers
from the covenants of promise, having no hope, and without Alahayim in the world:
[13]But now in Christ Yache ye who sometimes were far off are made nigh by the blood of Christ.
[14]For he is our peace, who hath made both one, and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us;

• The Gentile races are near unto the Hebrew race by the blood of Christ to make us one people as Christians

[19]Now therefore ye are no more strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints, and of the household of Alahayim;

• Believing Gentiles are not strangers or foreigners. They are saints, brothers and sisters of the household of Alahayim. By precept, any nation that believes in Yache Christ are the children of Abraham by faith:

Galatians 3:6-7,26
[6]Even as Abraham believed Alahayim, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.
[7]Know ye therefore that they which are of faith, the same are the children of Abraham.
[26]For ye are all the children of Alahayim by faith in Christ Yache. ​​

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• Now Jew and Gentile are children of Abraham by faith so we can understand a man only gives his daughter or sister to the children of Abraham by faith of any nation, not to the seed of the Gentiles. **(please see interracial marriage tab for further edification)**

• There is punishment ordained for the man that gives his daughter or sister unto an unbeliever: 

Jubilees 30:9-10

9. For thus hath it been ordained and written in the heavenly tables regarding all the seed of Israel: he who defileth (it) shall surely die, and he shall be stoned with stones. 10. And to this law there is no limit of days, and no remission, nor any atonement: but the man who hath defiled his daughter shall be rooted out in the midst of all Israel, because he hath given of his seed to Moloch, and wrought impiously so as to defile it.

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• Through precept we understand giving our seed to Moloch means a man has given his daughter or sister unto an unbeliever which defiles the seed of Israel and also defiles the female:

Lev 20:1  

And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying,
Lev 20:2  

Again, thou shalt say to the children of Israel, Whosoever he be of the children of Israel, or of the strangers that sojourn in Israel, that giveth any of his seed unto Molech; he shall surely be put to death: the people of the land shall stone him with stones.
Lev 20:3  

And I will set my face against that man, and will cut him off from among his people; because he hath given of his seed unto Molech, to defile my sanctuary, and to profane my holy name.

• Whether stranger or Israelite, giving a daughter or sister to an unbeliever defiles Ahayah's sanctuary and name.

Lev 20:4  

And if the people of the land do any ways hide their eyes from the man, when he giveth of his seed unto Molech, and kill him not:
Lev 20:5  

Then I will set my face against that man, and against his family, and will cut him off, and all that go a whoring after him, to commit whoredom with Molech, from among their people.

• We are not to be consenting unto the giving of a believer unto an unbeliever or we will be cut off from the Church. 

 Jubilees 30:11-16

11. And do thou, Moses, command the children of Israel and exhort them not to give their daughters to the Gentiles, and not to take for their sons any of the daughters of the Gentiles, for this is abominable before Ahayah.

• That is the reason it is not lawful to make marriages with unbelievers for our family:

12. For this reason I have written for thee in the words of the Law all the deeds of the Shechemites, which they wrought against Dinah, and how the sons of Jacob spake, saying: "We shall not give our daughter to a man who is uncircumcised; for that were a reproach unto us." ​

13. And it is a reproach to Israel, to those who give, and to those who take the daughters of the Gentiles; for this is unclean and abominable to Israel.

• This is the simplicity of the faith, "its unlawful for us to make marriages with unbelievers for our children; for it is a reproach unto us."

14. And Israel will not be free from this uncleanness if it hath a wife of the daughters of the Gentiles, or hath given any of its daughters to a man who is of any of the Gentiles.

15. For there will be plague upon plague, and curse upon curse, and every judgment and plague and curse will come (upon him): if he do this thing, or hide his eyes from those who commit uncleanness, or those who defile the sanctuary of Ahayah, or those who profane His holy name, (then) will the whole nation together be judged for all the uncleanness and profanation of this (man).

• This command is important to keep because if we make marriages with unbelievers for our children or be consenting unto believers giving their children to unbelievers, plagues, curses, and judgments will come upon us as a Christian nation for this uncleanness and profanation of the Holy name and Sanctuary of Ahayah.

16. And there will be no respect of persons [and no consideration of persons], and no receiving at his hands of fruits and offerings and burnt-offerings and fat, nor the fragrance of sweet savour, so as to accept it: and so fare every man or woman in Israel who defileth the sanctuary.​

• A father can also sell his daughter to be a maidservant-wife unto another man for that man's son: 

Exo 21:7

And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do.

Exo 21:9

And if he have betrothed her unto his son, he shall deal with her after the manner of daughters.

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• Thus, we have understanding of the laws pertaining to making marriages:

1. The elder daughter must be given or taken first in marriage

2. No making marriages with unbelievers for our children

3. No consenting unto marriages of unbelievers with a believer's children

4. Only give daughters to a man of understanding who walks uprightly

5. A man who takes a maidservant to be his son's wife must deal with her as a daughter

 

The laws on Rape

Deu 22:28  

If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;

Deu 22:29  

Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.

• If a man rapes an unbetrothed young woman of marriageable age, he is held accountable for what he has done and must pay the bride price to her father and cannot divorce her at all for any reason all his life to take responsibility for his unrighteous act. On the other hand, if a man rapes a little girl not of marriagable age, its an act of robbery for ravaging her and he is worthy of death:

Jubilees 30:2

2. And there they carried off Dinah, the daughter of Jacob, into the house of Shechem, the son of Hamor, the Hivite, the prince of the land, and he lay with her and defiled her, and she was a little girl, a child of eight years. Jasher 33:21-22

21. And they came and sat before their father and they spoke unto him kindled with wrath, saying, surely death is due to this man and to his household, because AHAYAH Alahayim of the whole earth commanded Noah and his children that man shall never rob, nor commit adultery ; now behold Shechem has both ravaged and committed fornication with our sister, and not one of all the people of the city spoke a word to him.

22. Surely thou knowest and understandest that the judgment of death is due to Shechem, and to his father, and to the whole city on account of what he has done.    

• If a man rapes another man's wife, he is worthy of death because the act is the same as killing a man, but the woman has not committed any sin worthy of death:

Deu 22:25  

But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die:

Deu 22:26  

But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter:

Deu 22:27  

For he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her.

Laws Regarding Making Marriages for Ourselves

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• Its not righteous to marry a strange woman who is not of the daughters of Abraham by faith (Israel) or through faith (Gentiles) lest they turn our hearts away from Ahayah:

Joseph and Asenath 7:6

6.    For Joseph had Alahayim always before his 2 eyes and ever  remembered the injunctions of his father; for Jacob often spake and admonished his son Joseph and all his sons : " Keep yourselves, children, securely from a strange woman so as not to have fellowship with her, for fellowship with her is ruin and destruction."

• In addition to avoiding strange women, we are further admonished in wisdom not to give our strength (seed) unto strange women keeping our virginity sound until given a wife from the Lord:

Ecclesiasticus 26:19 

My son, keep the flower of thine age sound; and give not thy strength to strangers.

• Keeping the flower of our age (virginity) sound, when given a fruitful possession (daughter of Abraham in faith) in marriage as a wife is from the Lord {Pro 19:14}, we are guided to sow our seed and beget children by the wife that is bringing forth good fruits in the faith: 

Ecclesiasticus 26:20 

When thou hast gotten a fruitful possession through all the field, sow it with thine own seed, trusting in the goodness of thy stock.

• It's a command not to marry strange women:

Deu 7:3

Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.

Deu 7:4

For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other alahayim: so will the anger of AHAYAH be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.

Neh 13:26

Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his Alahayim, and Alahayim made him king over all Israel: nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin.

Neh 13:27

Shall we then hearken unto you to do all this great evil, to transgress against our Alahayim in marrying strange wives?

• Solomon's sin of transgression was taking strange wives which edifies us to ensure we take wives of the true children of Abraham:

Tob 4:12  

Beware of all whoredom, my son, and chiefly take a wife of the seed of thy fathers, and take not a strange woman to wife, which is not of thy father's tribe: for we are the children of the prophets, Noe, Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob: remember, my son, that our fathers from the beginning, even that they all married wives of their own kindred, and were blessed in their children, and their seed shall inherit the land. 

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•  We can make marriages with children of Noah (all nations) who believe in Yache because they are children of Abraham by faith (Israel) and through faith (Gentiles) regardless of their race.  

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The Duty of a Husband's Brother

• Not all Israel are of Israel {Rom 9:6} and a Jew isn't one outwardly, { Rom 2:27} so "brethren" of the Jews are Jews inwardly whose circumcision is of the heart in the spirit {Rom 2:28} making them new creatures {Gal 6:15} and the Israel of Alahayim {Gal 6:16} that do the will of the Father {Matt 12:50} making them a "brother" :

Rom 9:6  

Not as though the word of Alahayim hath taken none effect. For they are not all Israel, which are of Israel

Rom 2:29  

But he is a Jew, which is one inwardly; and circumcision is that of the heart, in the spirit, and not in the letter; whose praise is not of men, but of Alahayim.

Mat 12:50  

For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.

• Knowing the understanding of a brother, if a brother dies with no children, his near kin, shall perform the duty of a husband's brother:

Deu 25:5  

If brethren dwell together, and one of them die, and have no child, the wife of the dead shall not marry without unto a stranger: her husband's brother shall go in unto her, and take her to him to wife, and perform the duty of an husband's brother unto her

Deu 25:6  

And it shall be, that the firstborn which she beareth shall succeed in the name of his brother which is dead, that his name be not put out of Israel.
Deu 25:7  

And if the man like not to take his brother's wife, then let his brother's wife go up to the gate unto the elders, and say, My husband's brother refuseth to raise up unto his brother a name in Israel, he will not perform the duty of my husband's brother.
Deu 25:8  

Then the elders of his city shall call him, and speak unto him: and if he stand to it, and say, I like not to take her;
Deu 25:9  

Then shall his brother's wife come unto him in the presence of the elders, and loose his shoe from off his foot, and spit in his face, and shall answer and say, So shall it be done unto that man that will not build up his brother's house.
Deu 25:10  

And his name shall be called in Israel, The house of him that hath his shoe loosed.
 

• A father can sell his daughter as a maidservant, which is the man's wife, since he has paid a dowry for her betrothing her unto himself:

Exo 21:7

And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do.

• (In the 7th year of release she does not go out free like the men do, {Leviticus 25:40-41} because she is espoused to the man to be his wife. She is not just a servant alone like the menservants.)

Exo 21:8

If she please not her master, who hath betrothed her to himself, then shall he let her be redeemed: to sell her unto a strange nation he shall have no power, seeing he hath dealt deceitfully with her.

• He paid the dowry by buying her from her father, so she is betrothed unto him, but if he did not go in unto her to complete the marriage requirement, he hath dealt deceitfully with her because he didn’t marry her like he had bought her for, so she can be purchased by her family and return to her Father’s house because she wasn’t defiled, so she can still be given to another man in marriage:

Exo 21:10  

If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.

Exo 21:11 

 And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money.

• If the man doesn't continue to provide those three things for her as his wife when he takes other wives, she shall go out free to return to her family and be married unto another in the Lord.

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Marriages in War

• In war, a man can take to wife a woman from among the captives if she is willing to be his wife:

Deu 21:10  

When thou goest forth to war against thine enemies, and the LORD thy Alahayim hath delivered them into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive,
Deu 21:11  

And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife;
Deu 21:12  

Then thou shalt bring her home to thine house; and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails;
Deu 21:13  

And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.

• Rape is accounted as robbery and an act worthy of death for ravaging a woman, so the woman must be consenting unto the union and pleased to dwell with the man:

Deu 21:14  

And it shall be, if thou have no delight in her, then thou shalt let her go whither she will; but thou shalt not sell her at all for money, thou shalt not make merchandise of her, because thou hast humbled her.

• If the woman doesn't change to believe the faith and walk in the fruits of the Spirit, then let the unbelieving depart { 1 Cor 7:15} to go whither she wills as we are called unto peace:

1Co 7:15  

But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but Alahayim hath called us to peace.

 

What is required for marriage in the sight of Alahayim

• Through the testimonies we get understanding of what is required to be married in Ahayah’s eyes:  

Gen 29:15  

And Laban said unto Jacob, Because thou art my brother, shouldest thou therefore serve me for nought? tell me, what shall thy wages be?

Gen 29:18  

And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter.

Gen 29:19  

And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me.

• Consent and agreement with the father including his bride price for his daughter if he requires one:

Gen 29:20  

And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.

Gen 29:21

 And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her.​

• A marriage contract (instrument of covenants) must be written up for a record of the agreement:

Tob 7:13  

Then he called his daughter Sara, and she came to her father, and he took her by the hand, and gave her to be wife to Tobias, saying, Behold, take her after the law of Moses, and lead her away to thy father. And he blessed them;
Tob 7:14  

And called Edna his wife, and took paper, and did write an instrument of covenants, and sealed it.
 

• Have two or three witnesses sign the instrument of covenant that the words may be established:

2Co 13:1  

This is the third time I am coming to you. In the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every word be established.

• It is not right to have intercourse with you wife before marriage:

Joseph and Asenath 20:8

 And Joseph stayed that day with Pentephres; and he did not sleep with Aseneth, for he said, "It is not right for a man who worships Alahayim to have intercourse with his wife before their marriage."

• A man has a wedding feast first wherein he has intercourse with his wife that night for their marriage to be complete:

Gen 29:22  

And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast.

The wedding feast is first:

Gen 29:23  

And it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her.

• Having gotten the fathers's consent and paying his bride price, a man may go in unto his wife to complete their marriage covenant: 

Gen 29:26  

And Laban said, It must not be so done in our country, to give the younger before the firstborn.

Gen 29:27  

Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years.

• feasts usually last 7-14 days with the man going in unto his wife on the first night of the feast. 

Gen 29:28  

And Jacob did so, and fulfilled her week: and he gave him Rachel his daughter to wife

also.

• By evidence of Laban agreeing with Jacob on his bride price for Rachel and giving her to him without a wedding feast, we can understand a wedding feast is not required for a marriage covenant to be complete: 

Gen 29:30  

And he went in also unto Rachel, and he loved also Rachel more than Leah, and served with him yet seven other years.

• Once he sleeps with her to complete the marriage, the woman takes on her husband's name according to the testimonies because a man has to lay with the woman for her to be called by the man's name. 

Tobit 3:8

Because that she had been married to seven husbands, whom Asmodeus the evil spirit had killed, before they had lain with her.

• They had consent and agreement with the father but didn't complete the marriage by intercourse with her:

Tobit 3:8

..Dost thou not know, said they, that thou hast strangled thine husbands? thou hast had already seven husbands, neither wast thou named after any of them.

• Hence she was not named after any of them because each one died before completing the marriage. When a man has gotten a wife, he has gotten a possession, help (companion), pillar of rest, and a tower against death to avoid fornication:

Sir 36:24

He that getteth a wife, getteth a possession, a help like unto himself, and a pillar of rest.

Sir 26:22  

An harlot shall be accounted as spittle; but a married woman is a tower against death to her husband.

Summary of Requirements for Marriages

1. Consent & Bride price (Dowry) agreement from the father

2. Instruments of Covenant (Marriage contract) w/ 2-3 witnesses to Establish the words of the covenant

3. Wedding feast (optional)

4. the man goes in unto his wife to take her in marriage.

5. The woman is called by her husband's name 

Laws for making marriages with Widows

• A widow does not need her father's consent but is free to marry whom she wills in the Lord:

1Co 7:39  

The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord 

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• An agreement on bride price between her and the man(if applicable), a marriage contract with signature of witnesses to establish the words of the covenant is still needed as well, before intercourse to complete the marriage that she may be called by his name. 

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